Our philosophy and approach

We believe that violence is a learned behavior and that violence can be unlearned. Tubman seeks to offer the widest range of choices to the men and women we serve and to use creative strategies to help people build violence-free lives. Domestic violence is a complex issue, and there is no single approach that works for every relationship and every situation. Tubman Family Alliance helps men and women understand and access their full range of options, and we support their choices—-even when victims choose to work on a relationship that has been abusive, and seek to stay together as a family. We know that the men and women we serve have the strengths—-assets, visions, values, hopes—-and that they are the experts on what is best for themselves and their families.

In this section, you can learn more about the history of attitudes towards domestic violence, the cycle of relationships, and relationship stages; and read excerpts from articles about the relationship cycle